Tired of Your Inner Critic? Try This Surprising Approach for Real Relief

We all have one — the inner critic.

That familiar, harsh voice might sound something like:
“You said that? I can’t believe you just did that.”
“You’re such a failure.”
“You should’ve known better.”

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

For many of us, the inner critic is loud, relentless, and exhausting. It keeps a running commentary on everything we do — often leaving us feeling anxious, ashamed, or “not good enough.”

It’s tempting to fight it, ignore it, or tell it to just go away. But what if there was another way?

Here’s a practice rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS therapy) and self-compassion:
Try thanking your inner critic.
Yes — you read that right.

Before you roll your eyes or click away, consider this: That inner critic has likely been with you for a long time. It’s working overtime to protect you — even if its methods are outdated or unhelpful.

🔍 Ask yourself:

• What is this critical part trying to do for me?

• Is it trying to push me to do better?

• Is it protecting me from being judged or hurt?

When you pause to acknowledge its good intentions, something powerful happens. That loud voice might start to soften.

You don’t have to agree with it or let it lead your life. But you can say,
"Thanks for working so hard to protect me. I see you."

This small shift — from resistance to curiosity — is the beginning of healing self-talk, emotional balance, and deeper inner peace.

Next time your critic shows up? Don’t shove it away. Greet it with gratitude. You might just notice it taking a much-needed break from its round-the-clock job.